Walking with hope and dharma : are dogs enlightened? Are Humans? -- The costs and benefits of obliviousness : growing up in the 1950s -- Nine bad things that almost happened, and many more that did : getting to the other side of trauma -- What is the opposite of trauma? : the positive power of transformational grace -- Can there ever be enough me? : narcissism and the positive death of self -- What does it mean to live an "extraordinary life"?