The 17 ways kids manipulate their parents -- How did we get here? : the truth about kids, parents, and the unspoken dynamics between them. The three major misconceptions most parents believe ; The three innate desires that lead most parents to inconsistency -- Your child's tools of power : the 17 ways kids manipulate to get what they want. Emotional blackmail ; Punishment ; Shutting down ; Irrational logic ; Negotiation ; Confrontation and protest ; Steamrolling ; Covert operations ; Divide and conquer ; Tactical engagement ; Creating leverage ; Playing the victim ; Forging the friendship ; Character comparison ; Casting doubt ; Glorification ; Surprise attack -- Developing an action plan to decrease problematic behavior in the future. The five reasons children manipulate ; Assessing your child's temperament : using the Star Method -- Setting structure based on your child's temperament : meeting your child's interpersonal needs. The self-doubting child ; The impulsive child : a case of the shuns ; The oppositional child ; The low-tolerant child : a need for control ; The anxious/insecure child -- Appendix. Five steps to imposing a restriction.