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Author Tannen, Deborah.

Title That's not what I meant! : how conversational style makes or breaks relationships / Deborah Tannen.

Imprint New York : Harper, 2011.


Location Call No. OPAC Message Status
 Axe 3rd Floor Stacks  302.346 T166t 2011    ---  Available
Description 214 pages ; 21 cm
text txt rdacontent
unmediated n rdamedia
volume nc rdacarrier
Note "First Harper paperback published 2011"--Title page verso.
Bibliography Includes bibliographical references (pages 206-207) and index.
Contents I. Linguistics and conversational style -- 1. The problem is the process -- 2. The workings of conversational style -- 3. Conversational signals and devices -- Part I: Conversational signals -- Part II: Conversational devices at work -- II. Conversational strategies -- 4. Why we don't say what we mean -- Part I: Why we won't say what we mean -- Part II: Why we can't say what we mean -- 5. Framing and reframing -- 6. Power and solidarity -- III. Talking at home: conversational style in close relationships -- 7. Why things get worse -- 8. Talk in the intimate relationship: his and hers -- 9. The intimate critic -- IV. What you can and can't do with conversational style -- 10. Talking about ways of talking.
Summary At home, on the job, in a personal relationship, it's often not what you say but how you say it that counts. Deborah Tannen revolutionized our thinking about relationships between women and men in her #1 bestseller, You Just Don't Understand. In That's Not What I Meant!, the internationally renowned sociolinguist and expert on communication demonstrates how our conversational signals--voice level, pitch and intonation, rhythm and timing, even the simple turns of phrase we choose--are powerful factors in the success or failure of any relationship. Regional speech characteristics, ethnic and class backgrounds, age, and individual personality all contribute to diverse conversational styles that can lead to frustration and misplaced blame if ignored--but provide tools to improve relationships if they are understood. At once eye-opening, astute, and vastly entertaining, Tannen's classic work on interpersonal communication will help you to hear what isn't said and to recognize how your personal conversational style meshes or clashes with others. It will give you a new understanding of communication that will enable you to make the adjustments that can save a conversation . . . or a relationship.
Subject Conversation.
Interpersonal communication.
Conversation. (OCoLC)fst00877209
Interpersonal communication. (OCoLC)fst00977344
ISBN 9780062062994 (pbk.)

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