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Author Tarney, Julie, author.

Title My son wears heels : one mom's journey from clueless to kickass / Julie Tarney ; foreword by Diane Ehrensaft.

Publication Info. Madison, Wisconsin : The University of Wisconsin Press, [2016]


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Description 1 online resource (xxi, 240 pages)
text txt rdacontent
computer c rdamedia
online resource cr rdacarrier
Series UPCC book collections on Project MUSE. Global Cultural Studies.
Bibliography Includes bibliographical references (page 215).
Contents How do you know I'm a boy? -- The toilet paper bride -- The dress-up box -- Out of the closet -- Not like other boys -- Four bullies suspended -- From blue wig to Hedwig -- Harry decides -- The pain in Spain -- The graduation stilettos -- The glass half full -- Epilogue: The night Jesus wore lace.
Summary In 1992, Julie Tarney's only child, Harry, told her, "Inside my head I'm a girl." He was two years old. Julie had no idea what that meant. She felt disoriented. Wasn't it her role to encourage and support her child? Surely she had to set some limits to his self-expression-- or did she? Would he be bullied? Could she do the right thing? What was the right thing? The internet was no help, because there was no internet. And there were zero books for a mom scrambling to understand a toddler who had definite ideas about his gender, regardless of how Nature had endowed him. Terms such as transgender, gender nonconforming, and gender creative were rare or nonexistent. There were, however, mainstream experts who theorized that a "sissy" boy was the result of a domineering mother. Julie couldn't believe it. She didn't want to care what her neighbors thought, but she did care. "Domineering mother" meant controlling mother. It meant bad mother. It meant her mother. Lacking a positive role model of her own, and fearful of being judged as a mom who was making her son "too feminine," Julie embarked on an unexpected parenting path. Despite some missteps, and with no map to guide her, she learned to rely on her instincts. She listened carefully, kept an open mind, and as long as Harry was happy, she let him lead the way. Julie eventually realized that Harry knew who he was all along. Her job was simply to love and support him unconditionally, allowing him to be his authentic self. This story of a mother embracing her child's uniqueness and her own will resonate with all families.-- Amazon.
Note Print version record.
Access Open access.
Subject Tarney, Julie.
Parents of sexual minority youth -- Biography.
Mothers -- Biography.
Transgender children -- Biography.
Mères -- Biographies.
Enfants transgenres -- Biographies.
FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS -- Parenting -- Motherhood.
SOCIAL SCIENCE -- Gender Studies.
SOCIAL SCIENCE / LGBTQ+ Studies / General
Parents of sexual minority youth
Transgender children
LGBTQ youth
Family members.
Transgender children.
Transgender youth.
Transgender people.
LGBTQ+ children.
Gay studies.
Lesbian studies.
Gender studies.
Indexed Term Gender creativity Gender creative children Gender diverse children Gender resilience Mothers of drag performers
Genre/Form autobiographies (literary works)
LGBTQ+ biographies.
Transgender biographies.
Added Author Ehrensaft, Diane, writer of foreword.
Other Form: Print version: Tarney, Julie. My son wears heels. Madison, Wisconsin : The University of Wisconsin Press, [2016] 9780299310608 (DLC) 2016012942 (OCoLC)946254957
ISBN 9780299310691 (electronic bk.)
0299310698 (electronic bk.)
9780299310639 (electronic bk.)
0299310639 (electronic bk.)

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